Have a lovely day! 😍
What an amazing, awe-inspiring event!!!
I am fresh off the heels of the Women’s March, a day of solidarity for women across the globe. The event began as a march in Washington D.C. to inform our new president of women’s concerns, but it spread in sister marches across the globe. There were marches in Europe, Asia, the Middle East . . . even Antartica! Yes, there were marchers on all seven continents of the globe. In some cities the gatherings were in the tens of thousands, and it morphed into a rally because there were too many people to march. If all goes well, the marches will continue and it will turn into a movement that changes the world.
Here is a picture with me in the midst of a crowd. My sign says, “Women’s Rights = Human Rights”.
There were so many beautiful women and supportive men at the march it was surprising and wonderful. The signs and sentiments were funny and smart, and expressed everything that women hope for around the world. There was widespread rejection of sexism, racism, homophobia, xenophobia, and all forms of hate and discrimination. There was a call for love, inclusion, equality and peace. Millions of people demonstrated peacefully, on one day, in solidarity for what is fair and right, for women, for everyone, and for the world.
I know there were many women like me who felt afraid, offended, and alone after the election of Donald Trump. This march was healing for so many of us – to feel the solidarity and connection with millions of other caring people. Marching has never felt so right before! It was also incredibly empowering. On more than one occasion I started a chant — even I was surprised by the strength of my voice and how quickly and readily others joined in. I will never doubt the power of one voice to make a difference again!
Frustration. Disappointment. Again.
How can a relationship feel so painful? Your partner, husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend is most likely the person who upsets you the most. How can this be, when they are supposed to be the one who loves you the most, the one who is supportive and on your side?
The more you care, the more it hurts. That’s why it’s much easier to ignore the “bad” behavior of strangers – we just don’t care that much about them.
But when it hits home, it’s hard to ignore. We start complaining and try to make it stop.
Do you think that if s/he just understood you better then they’d change their behavior? Then I have bad news for you. Even when partners understand, they rarely change their behavior. And it’s not because he or she doesn’t love you, because they do.
“Well then, if they love me so much then why do they treat me that way!?”
The key is in the word, “treat”. The idea that they way other people act around us is a type of “treatment” and a reflection of how much they value us. Actually, people act the way they do because it’s best for them. It’s what they’ve learned to do over time, it feels natural and it’s ingrained! They can’t just suddenly stop doing what they’ve always done!
Or, can they?
FEATURE ARTICLE of the Unforgettable Embrace newsletter
“When Will I Meet The Person I Fall in Love With?”
If you’re single, you’ve probably been asking yourself this question for a while, and it’s because so many people think about love in this way. They think that you can’t experience love unless you meet someone in particular that creates the feeling of love inside of you.
What is wrong with this question?
Well, for starters, it puts the whole experience of love out of your hands! It makes you completely dependent on someone else for how you feel, which is never a good thing.
The other reason why this is the wrong question to ask is that it puts your life on hold. You will be sitting around waiting for that special someone to show up before you feel you can live fully. And who knows if or when that person will arrive. And if they do show up, will you recognize each other as the ONE you should be with? There are just too many “ifs” in this scenario, and how can you bet your life and your happiness on so many unknowns?
There is a better way!
The other evening, I was talking with a man who said to me, “Suzanne, you’re a Relationship Coach. Do you think it’s possible to be in love with two people at the same time?” I could hear the concern in his voice, as well as a hint of pride.
“Yes, I do think you can be in love with two people at the same time,” I said. “We’re human, and we can experience many emotions with different people, even conflicting emotions toward the same person.” I knew that he probably felt two different types of love for these two people. I also knew that there was more to the story . . . because this man was married.
What happened? he had been struggling with conflicts in his marriage for a long time and felt very angry with his wife. He strayed from his marriage and met another woman. Over time, they grew very close and he fell in love with the “other woman.” Now, he longed to be with her instead of his wife.
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Are you lucky in love? Some people think love is mostly a matter of luck — who they happen to meet and how they get along. It isn’t really the “winds of fate” that determine your luck or lack in the love department. It’s really what you think, feel, and especially believe that determine how happy and successful you’ll be.
If you haven’t been “lucky” so far, it isn’t a sign that you won’t be in the future. All it takes is a bit of introspection about what has blocked you so far. There truly is an abundance of love just waiting for you to open up to it!